SOLR-17480: Use --data-home everywhere

[epugh]

https://issues.apache.org/jira/browse/SOLR-17480

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[epugh]

@malliaridis and ready!

[malliaridis]

We should also update:

• solr/bin/solr.cmd#310 - -t should be --data-home
• solr/bin/solr.cmd#344 - -t should be --data-home
• solr/bin/solr#370 - -t should be --data-home

[dsmiley]

Just a meta comment but it's annoying to read PR description that is our template that hasn't been filled out. Either fill it out or remove it. Always have the JIRA link though. Our PR template gives explicit permission for us to do so right after the JIRA link, but maybe should encourage us to.

[malliaridis]

LGTM :)