backport: merge bitcoin#21845, #22732, #23542, #24468, #25119, #25176, #25421, #26248, #26199, #27036, #27270, partial bitcoin#27106 (networking backports: part 10)

backport: merge bitcoin#21845, #22732, #23542, #24468, #25119, #25176, #25421, #26248, #26199, #27036, #27270, partial bitcoin#27106 (networking backports: part 10) #8850