fix(python): Replace _kwargs in collect method

[jackxxu]

when I was incorporating @ritchie46's suggestion in disabling CSE in the collect method in #19480, I initially used

ldf.collect(common_subplan_elim=False)

it didn't complain but produces no performance improvements that I was expecting, until I looked it up and found the keyword to be comm_subplan_elim instead.

this PR solves this potential pitfull for developers by replacing the _kwargs with spelled out keyword arguments, to let python do the checking for us and raise TypeError if not correct.

typically, unless a method either forwards/delegates the kwargs to another method or it takes whatever, it is reasonable to assume that the method spells out its interface.

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[cmdlineluser]

This will close #16525

[ritchie46]

post_opt_callback is not intended for public use. It is private. We should instead check the content of _kwargs for items that aren't allowed (if any).

[jackxxu]

@ritchie46, commits added