simplify wheel CI scripts, other small packaging changes

[jameslamb]

Fixes #6023

Proposes some miscellaneous packaging cleanup:

• updates rapids-dependency-file-generator to its latest version (1.17.0) in pre-commit config
• removes unused PACKAGE_CUDA_SUFFIX in build_wheel.sh
• removes unnecessary pip install cmake in test_wheel.sh
  • there are aarch64 treelite wheels now: https://pypi.org/project/treelite/#files
• CMake option cleanup:
  • adds BUILD_PRIMS_BENCH OFF, removes BUILD_BENCH OFF in get_raft.cmake (matching changes to RAFT from 23.04: Add end-to-end CUDA ann-benchmarks to raft raft#1304)
  • removes unnecessary BUILD_CUML_PRIMS_BENCH (nothing uses this)
  • removes unnecessary CUML_USE_FAISS_STATIC (nothing uses this)
• dependencies.yaml changes:
  • breaks some dependencies out into depends_on_* groups to reduce duplication, and for consistency with other RAPIDS projects (docs explaining this)
  • alphabetizes dependency lists

[jameslamb]

/ok to test

[jameslamb]

/ok to test

[bdice]

We could move/remove libcumlprims and libraft-headers into their own depends_on_X lists. Or maybe we can remove libraft-headers here? We did that in cugraph, iirc. This is not a blocker, I defer to your judgment.

[jameslamb]

I don't think we want to remove libraft-headers here. That was fine in rapidsai/cugraph#4805 (comment) because there, it was coming through transitively via libraft.

cuml's environments and conda recipes don't depend on libraft, so I think it's still needed here.

I just pushed b9a0bb0 moving libcumlprims and libraft-headers into depends_on lists. They were only used once so it doesn't remove any duplication today, but it's helpful for applying this depends_on convention consistently across RAPIDS, and keeps the diff of a future change using those packages in more places smaller.

I'll merge this once CI passes.